Posts by Aunt Fancy

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Could they become a real cult?

by HowTheBibleWasCreated in

i study religions.

i never call new world religons cults.

until they become like heavsn gate etc.. the jw religions is setting itself u for this.

Could they become a real cult?

by HowTheBibleWasCreated in

i study religions.

i never call new world religons cults.

until they become like heavsn gate etc.. the jw religions is setting itself u for this.

Do some research by cult authorities like Steve Hassan and you will find out that the JW's are definately considered a cult. His website is Freedomofminds.com. You will find it along with the books he has written very interesting.

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More Elaborate Celebrations International Conv. Atlanta

by NoMoreHustle in

found this video of the entertainment preperation for the delegates in atlanta, u.s. this seems to be professionally done maybe outside sources or probably done by "professional" jw's.

this is just like christendom or all the other religious organizations that they deem to be from the devil.

the people seem to be very sincere in there efforts & is much appreciated,.

Aunt Fancy

I have seen a number of the convention videos and it is nothing like the religion I left 2 years ago.

We use to do a "family night" and a "congregation picnic" but they were stopped because of direction from the GB. People even curbed gatherings in their homes because everything was so serious and there was counsel from the platform. Now all of the sudden there is singing, bands and dancing in the KHs. So what is it? Should they continue to have fun or go back to only going to meetings and field service and no parties or dinners?!?

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Divorcing my husband of 13 years...

by 2pink in

jw
friends

my husband and i were both born ins.

i left in 2009, and he followed me out a bit later.

we were one of those couples who followed the script, married young and ended up having nothing in common other than the religion.

Aunt Fancy

You did the right thing contacting an attorney. You are right, it is a difficult road but you will and can get through it. Your children may need some therapy to help them through it. When I went through it 34 years ago no one suggested I take my son to one and I wish I would have done that. It was difficult on him and it is for all children.

That is a good idea to keep a notebook with questions and answers that way you have it right at your finger tips. I would also check to see what help you are eligible for and what local colleges or trade schools have to offer you. I know a number of years ago a friend of mine was able to get her education as a dental hygienist for free and she was 40+ years old and divorced.

Your children are very fortunate that you love them as much as you do. I don't understand why some would even suggest you give them back. They are very precious and you will find a way to continue to take care of them. I have a cousin who has a son with MD and they are paid to be his caretaker instead of someone coming in to take care of him or putting him in an institution. There are so many programs out there that you may not be aware of.

Take care and sending you a hug.

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Divorcing my husband of 13 years...

by 2pink in

jw
friends

my husband and i were both born ins.

i left in 2009, and he followed me out a bit later.

we were one of those couples who followed the script, married young and ended up having nothing in common other than the religion.

Aunt Fancy

I really feel for you because you have a lot on your plate especially with taking care of your special needs children. It will be a major change in your life trying to support them and care for them on your own. Your husband will have to pay child support and depending on the state you live in maybe even spousal support. Make sure you get a very good attorney because it could mean a huge difference in what type of settlement you receive.

I would also seek out an excellent therapist to help you work through this or even the possibility of saving the marriage. Sometime marriages can be save with the help of a professional and with children involved many try this route.

You are obviously a very strong woman and I am sure you will find a way to get through this. Hang in there.

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Failure

by backformore in

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friends

so tonight just sucks ad i just want to vent to people who don't know me irl.. my wife and i have two kids.

i was still in when we got together but my wife never was.

when we actually got married i moved out of my parents place and never went back to a kingdom hall again.

Aunt Fancy

I have no idea how old you are but it is not unusual for parents to have children in their late 30's and even 40's. I would not worry about that unless her doctors are concerned for health reasons.

I would not do the IVF with a history of breast cancer especially if she has the type that is hormone driven, her doctor should have told her if that is the case. Some breast cancer can be driven by up to three hormones and taking those drugs are like giving the cancer vitamins. My doctor told me to stay away from all hormones because of that, I even try to stay away from things that have bpa in them because they can act as hormones. Even though your wife is in remission and they got it all she still needs to be careful because there is always that percentage that it can come back.

Going the route you went through for adoption can bring heartache as you experienced, you can always go through a reputable adoption agency.

I would suggest you meet with your wife's doctors and discuss what would be safe and healthy for her body because of her history. There is also another thing you can look forward to and that is grandchildren! They will bring you so much joy when the time is right, again I am not sure how old your children are.

I hope you find the best solution for your family.

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I can't get in through my computer

by Aunt Fancy in

simon, i have been trying to log on using my computer for two days and it is not letting me in.

i have tried a couple of different passwords and even tried to have it send me my password but it always comes back that there is an error.

i do not want to reregister.

Aunt Fancy

Thanks. I am using my IPhone and I Pad. I was able to get in on Internet Explorer but not Chrome. I wasn't sure if there was a problem with the site because I was getting an error message from this site when I requested the password. I will try refreshing the cookies.

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A rose by any other name..............

by sparrowdown in

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friends

i'm curious, why and how did you choose your username?.

does it hold any special significance for you, is there a share-able back story?.

for me sparrowdown is a playful reference to matt 10:29 and the title of the movie black hawk down.. matt 10:29 was my go-to scrip to "prove" that god cares about us as individuals.

Aunt Fancy

I am a girly girl and I love makeup, jewelry, fashion and all of that fun stuff. My niece was about 4 years old at the time, she looked at me one day and called me Aunt Fancy and it stuck.

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My JW mom is now willing to "listen" to our side...Need advice pls

by 2pink in

jw
friends

my husband and i (both born in jws with extended family all "in" except for one of my sisters who left when we did) left the church 5 years ago.

we did not fade, we just didn't believe it anymore, told our families so and left.

obviously, big drama in our family after this, messy feelings, etc.

Aunt Fancy

There are a lot of great points. My only advice is to only give one or two points right now and you can do more later. Her brain will shut down if you give her too much to think about. Also you can go on JWfacts.com for some great information because he has so many great points that you can use. I hope it all goes well for you. Your Mom just might wake up since she is willing to listen. We were in our late 50's when we woke up so it is never too late for anyone who is still breathing!

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I can't get in through my computer

by Aunt Fancy in

simon, i have been trying to log on using my computer for two days and it is not letting me in.

i have tried a couple of different passwords and even tried to have it send me my password but it always comes back that there is an error.

i do not want to reregister.

Aunt Fancy

Simon, I have been trying to log on using my computer for two days and it is not letting me in. I have tried a couple of different passwords and even tried to have it send me my password but it always comes back that there is an error. if you could help me with this I would appreciate it. I do not want to reregister. Thanks!